Something I often hear about, and from, guys is that men are “clueless” and “oblivious” to signals that a girl is interested in them. I understand that the realm of nonverbal communication and differences in personalities is very nebulous. However, this statement got me thinking about how I act, or have acted, around guys I’m crushing on. I can definitely say that I act VERY differently around guys I like vs. guys I don’t have a crush on. I came up with three basic behaviors I tend to do only around guys I’m interested in. I should make a caveat that girls do vary across the spectrum of shy and outgoing, and I fall into the former sphere. This means that I tend to not be as forward or direct as my more outgoing counterparts, and usually try to be coy about things. This is why for me, nonverbal cues, if you happen to pick up on them, are very telling.
1.) I touch my hair.
This is probably the most obvious indicator, and practiced by many other women as well. In general, I have a lot of nervous energy when talking to my crush, and use the fidgety energy to twirl/flip/run my fingers through my hair. I never randomly touch my hair when talking to anyone else.
2. I try to bring attention to my lips.
This sounds weird, but it’s something I do semi-unconsciously. I will protrude them into a semi-pout (it’s supposed to look sexy, I swear!), lick them, or bite my lower lip. Again, this is just another outlet for nervous sexual energy, indicating that my lips really want to kiss your lips. Just like in the last point, my lips are the last thing I care about when talking to anyone else. When talking to my crush, I suddenly become aware of them.
3. I tilt my head to the right whilst trying to flash my cutest/most enthusiastic smile.
The head tilt, usually coupled with a smile, is another uber-obvious signal that a woman is trying her darndest to unleash her cute charms onto you. So pay attention, boys! Her smile is so sincere that her eyes crinkle and her cheekbones look like they are going to pop out. When speaking to mere mortals, my head usually remains in its default position – upright. However, when speaking to the man of my dreams, I look kind of drunk. That should make things clear.
So there you have three tell-tale nonverbal signs that I (as well as some other girls) have the hots for you. And then there are the obvious factors like she seems like she enjoys being around you, is reciprocating conversation you, laughing at your jokes (whether or not they are actually good), etc. etc.
What do you think, ladies? And for the fellas, I hope this has helped you somewhat!